Dear Birthmother,
Allow us to introduce ourselves. Our names are Brian and Tonya, and we are grateful to write this letter so you can learn about us and maybe make the decision easier for you to find a family for your child.
We can only imagine the emotions you are feeling as you start reading this letter and begin the process of trying to find the best possible parents for your child. God has allowed our paths to cross – to cross for a special reason! And we thank you for this opportunity to introduce ourselves and honor you for the courageous decision you have made to choose life for your baby and to look at all the options for securing your baby’s future.
We have always known that children would be a part our lives, and although we have not been able to conceive a child, we know that God has a different plan for our lives. He allowed us to see adoption as an awesome chance to realize our dreams to give a child or children a wonderful life and bright future. Although our plans aren’t always what God’s are, His plan is always perfect for our lives.
We have been married for 11 years, and we have a blast. We both love to have fun, be goofy, and love each other like crazy. We met at church, and Brian took one look at Tonya and said, “WOW”, and all Tonya remembers is “Big hair and a long coat.” You see, Brian needed a haircut really badly and wore some goofy, long coat. But after meeting and getting to know each other, we had found our soul mates and partners for LIFE! Good thing Tonya could look past the hair and goofy coat.
After a couple years of marriage, we wanted to start a family. But after lots and lots of fertility treatments and much disappointment and heartache, we were told it would be unlikely for us to conceive. Well, we knew God had given us the desire to have a family, so we were fortunate enough to see adoption as the choice for our lives. We were able to go to Ukraine in 2005 and adopt a precious little boy, who was 18 months old at the time, living in an orphanage. We are truly thankful to his birth mother that she made the choice to give birth to him and that we had the opportunity to find him and raise him as our son. Hunter is such a blessing. He is now 4 ½ years old and is all boy (and very good at it – ha ha). We have been blessed to share our lives with this little boy and now know, without a doubt, that God is calling us to share our lives with another child who would be welcomed into our family with unconditional love. Hunter will be a wonderful big brother and already talks about helping out with feeding, rocking the baby to sleep and changing the diapers (well, maybe not the diapers).
We live in small, rural town in a 2 story, brick house on 7 acres. We have a huge yard for children to play in and lots of woods for exploring. A lot of our family lives within 30 minutes of our house. We are so fortunate to have our parents close by, and they are an important part of our lives and the lives of their grandchildren. Of course, they spoil them like crazy with trips to McDonalds, candy, and unlimited hugs, kisses and tickles. But that is what grandparents are for. We also have awesome siblings and nieces and nephews. They are all such a vital part of our lives and love the fact we can spend time with them and just hang out.
We are very involved with our church and have been blessed to have so many friends, many with small children. We love to travel as a family and even do this a lot of times with our friends and their kids. The beach is one of our favorites. We try to go there every year. Of course, it could be we just love to play in the sand and make big sand castles. Or that we love to go for long walks and find lots of sea shells.
Brian is my best friend. He loves life, and it shows. He is a hard worker and lives a life of integrity. Brian is very thoughtful and will leave little notes and messages around the house for me to find, even spelling “I Love You” with fruit on the kitchen counter. He makes me laugh all the time with his goofy nature. He always gets his words messed up and backwards, another reason I love him so much, because he so real. Brian loves to play and watch sports. We are a sports family and love to play just about anything together as a family. We love to throw the football with Hunter, bump the volleyball and play Frisbee with our golden retriever, Lexie. Yes, even Lexie gets in on the action. Brian loves to work in the yard, and it shows by how wonderful it always looks. Brian is a very strong Christian and leads our family with honesty, trust and devotion. Brian is very close with his parents and his brothers. He grew up in a wonderful home and environment. His parents just celebrated their 45 wedding anniversary. And both of his brothers are married with great kids. We love our nephews and have a lot of fun with them, whether it is playing army men with them or going fishing with them. Brian works as a fundraiser representative. He goes out to schools and gets to interact with the kids and teachers to help them raise money for the school’s needs. When people ask me what my husband does, I usually just tell them he is a big kid and gets to go out and play with kids and toys all day long. It’s a great job and allows him to be home nights, weekends and summers. He basically has a teacher’s schedule. Brian is an awesome dad, and I love to watch him interact with Hunter. They are constantly wrestling on the floor and yes, Lexie is on that action, too. They are always making forts and fighting the bad guys and pirates. It is so fun to watch them play. Brian cannot wait to involve our new baby in the action.
As I’m sitting here beginning to share with you about who Tonya is, I wonder how do I even try to describe and explain to you in words who she is, so that you can truly understand why I fell head over heels in love with her. The number one thing that attracted me to Tonya was that she was, and is, an awesome Christian woman. Yes, I do admit her looks did grab my attention, and I thought she was a knock-out, but after meeting and spending time with her, I then saw just how beautiful she really was. Her inner beauty was even more beautiful than her outer appearance. I had found a precious jewel. I married my best friend whom I’m so blessed to spend my life with. We do everything together. We both love to play sports, go on hikes, travel, fish, and just about anything outdoors. And we love being involved in our Church and God’s work in and around our community. Tonya is an amazing loving wife and mother. She is now a stay at home mom after teaching high school for 11 years. It has been a blessing to us to be able to bring her home to raise Hunter and our future child. Both of our moms were home with us while we were young, and we are tying to follow in those same footsteps that our parents provided for us. It provided us with loving and memorable times with our moms. I know Hunter is reaping some of those loving, memorable benefits already as we did as children. I come home from work and find what Hunter and Tonya have made for me (such as a huge sign they made one day that says “I love you Daddy”) and hear about their day together and what he has learned. I have seen firsthand a miraculous change in a little boy who has received love, nurture and compassion from his mother. Tonya loves being around people and is very good with kids. She would have to be if she was a teacher. My whole family loves Tonya, sometimes I think even more so than they love me (ha ha). I’m one of three boys, and my mother considers Tonya and my sister-n-laws to be daughters she never had. God has blessed me with an amazing family already and I can’t wait to see what He has in store for us in the future.
We again, can only imagine what you are thinking at this time in your life as you are making a decision concerning the future of your child. You are a very brave woman. Know God will honor you with this decision you are making. We will definitely always be open and honest with your child and keep you as a special part of their life. Likewise, we would be happy to send you letters and photographs letting you know how your child is doing, if you wish. We have so much love to give and long to have the opportunity to raise another child in our home. We pray daily that God will allow us to find that child to raise as our own. And we also pray for your health and happiness during this time. Remember God never puts more on us than we can handle. We know that there are several paths you could choose. We pray that God will allow you to be at peace with the decision you make. We truly hope that will include for our paths to cross with yours to start this journey together.
If you would like to know more about us, talk with us on the phone, or even met with us, you can get in contact with our lawyers, Steve and Joel Kirsh at anytime. Their number is 1-800-333-5736. Even if you call after hours, they have an answering service that will page them and call you right back. Steve and Joel are wonderful guys to work with and they will definitely provide you with the info you need to make a knowing, well-informed decision.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Take care and God Bless,
